I’ve been mostly absent from my favourite blogs, even more absent than usual from Facebook and other social media platforms and playing catch-up in my daily life for a few weeks or so – did you notice?
Sometimes it just seems that outside influences and the vagaries of life simply get together and decide to invade what is otherwise a peaceful and well modulated existence. But let’s be honest. It all started with not paying attention…….
I was hurrying. My mind already several tasks ahead of where my feet were going and in that unmindful state I tripped over the leg of my easel – you know that one sitting just to the left of the doorway encumbered with the 140cm wide, still unfinished painting
Hurrying past, I tripped, I lurched into the door of the art room at such speed I bounced off it and hit the opposite side of the doorway. Bang, bang! I knew I was going down and I knew I was going down hard. You know how time slows at these moments and everything is really clear and you have time to think things through. I’d whacked my left arm really hard and now I knew I was going to do the same to my right. Don’t break, please don’t break. I was alone. My daughter had just left town visiting her sister for a few days. My neighbours were away for the weekend. Don’t break anything. Don’t break anything…… I went down full force onto my right leg as I spun through the doorway and crashed my head into the opposite wall. It’s only a little house – there’s no wide expanses here to topple gracefully into and rise again unharmed.
I lay face down on the floor trying to figure out which bits hurt and could I move them. Siddy was delighted. He bounced around me making quick darts in and dancing back flapping one paw in the air. A lovely new game. “No!” I said. He darted and bounced some more. “Stop!” I cried. He smiled at me and bounced some more. “You’re no (beeped) Lassie!” I snarled as I tried to roll over in the awkward space and find some way of sitting up. My head hurt. My arm hurt. My leg really hurt. Eventually I gathered myself from doorway and walls and decided nothing was broken. Sitting up having become impossible I pushed myself up from the floor in a complex series of steps that kept head, arm and leg attached to body sufficiently for me to crawl – yes crawl – into a slightly larger open space where I felt the need to have a wee lie down for a few minutes. By this time the puppy had ceased his invitation to play and, having watched this new activity with some interest, bustled off and returned with his favourite soft toy. I was invited to partake in a game of fetch which I again declined reminding him that he had a long way to go to catch up with the rescuing abilities of Lassie. He wasn’t bothered.
Eventually I got myself up and inspected. Nothing was broken, there was no blood. I was shaken and sore and felt just a tad ridiculous I decided. Thank heavens no-one was here to witness that little display of indignity! I felt so fortunate I played a short round of victory fetch with the pup while I swallowed arnica pillules for shock and rubbed arnica cream onto the sore bits.
I was however pulled up sharply from my rushing about and forced to spend the next few days resting up as the bruises slowly came out and the aches and pains settled down. A trip to the chiropractor graunched the bones back into their proper places and we were getting back into normal life when the swollen left leg became too painful to walk on and I knew I’d gotten myself a blood clot – a ‘Deep Vein Thrombosis’ a thing that has always made my GP’s panic given the family history. A quick call to my homeopath and I was in her rooms and we were sorting a plan to fix that little sucker. It’s the first time I’ve refused to consider allopathic care for a blood clot – I’m not a fan of warfarin or hospitals and that is the usual route when I get a DVT. I’m happy to report that within three days the leg was completely restored to health and I was striding out again. No side effects, except perhaps for a rather grumpy mood for several days. I used the time to work on getting as many Christmas cards made as I could manage and my Sewchet organised ‘Secret Santa’ parcel completed, wrapped up and ready for sending. It includes this delicious bamboo-cotton crochet wrap
With just six cards still to make I ran out of time. My youngest daughter, returned from visiting her sister and back at work, took her turn at a nasty fall and not being as fortunate as me, was outside in the middle of the night, looking up not down and tripped over a very high speed bump in a narrow University back lot lane, broke her leg in two places and fractured the ankle – all on the same leg.
I took this photo when I finally found her. She hasn’t slept for close to 36 hours except for the induced sleep of the operating table……… She’s on a morphine drip, still feeling the pain and just wants to go home…….
What followed was three nightmarish days in a less than happy hospital environment during which she had surgery and post-operative recovery followed by one full day of black comedy waiting for the hospital to organise it’s bits of paper and allow her to leave. From 9 am until 5.30 pm she practised patiently waiting while being told it would ‘just be another half hour, we just need to……’ Siddy and I practised patiently waiting less effectively at her home. But eventually we were rewarded and so great was poor Siddy’s joy at seeing his second-favourite person in the entire world that he fell off the bedroom window sill where he was waiting and found himself jammed down the side of a bed and wall with no room to move. Extricated he rushed off to continue his ecstatic over-the-top greeting ritual as an exhausted Danella was carefully maneuvered from car to couch by her caring friends. One half of that pair of friends, Karen, stayed that night which was wonderful and allowed me to go home and recuperate too.
A day later and we were all immensely grateful when my eldest daughter dropped her entire life and came flying down to be with her sister for the next six days. Having another person on hand as we nutted out ways to make doing the most mundane activities possible for a person in a plaster half cast, still in shock and a lot of pain was invaluable. Joanna and I role played the showering scenario and so found a way to meet every possible need. We tried it out on the patient and finding it all went rather well, her mother, sister and Siddy, stood around watching carefully as she soaped herself and laughed uproariously as she remarked morosely on the fact that all privacy and dignity was now a thing of the past.
Joanna companioned, cooked, sorted and tidied and even put up the Christmas tree for her sister before returning to her abandoned partner and job and leaving us better off and very grateful for her special presence.
As I drove back home after delivering Jo to the airport my phone was tinging with constant messages. I discovered that my youngest brother had died suddenly and unexpectedly following a massive heart attack. It is a very private devastation and remembering that followed that news.
My remaining sibling, who lives in Australia, and I connected on a deep level later that day. I am filled with affection and pride for both my brothers, and especially my remaining brother Colin. We have overcome!
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Let’s fast-forward another week and return to Danella who is doing well. She now sports a lovely purple fibreglass leg brace and has returned to her usual positive and sunny self, dealing with her changed circumstances with grace and dignity and using her incredible ability to nut out challenges and problems and come up with ingenious solutions. Her home is organised and everything she needs has a place. Her workplace, Otago University has been incredible. Danella’s boss is the University Proctor and I can’t speak too highly of him. Help and assistance has been put in place at so many levels, making both her life, and therefore mine, so much easier to cope with. We are grateful!
Siddy and I visit every day. While he bathes her in love and happiness I potter about and clean and tidy and prepare nutritious smoothies. Yesterday we got her down the steps and out into her courtyard garden where we spent a happy couple of hours weeding, dead heading and tidying up. Today the bird feeders, neglected for a week, were all refilled, calling the birds back into her garden.
The final half dozen cards never did get made. It might have to be e-cards again this year……. or this……….
It’s dreadfully true, he’s no Lassie. But Sid-Arthur has his own unique ability to spread happiness and smiles and pure love. In case I don’t make it back before – Season’s Greetings, Happy Holidays, Blessed Hanukkah and Merry Christmas Y’all ❤
Thanks for coming by today, I love that you did!
part of my comment was cut off, I am finding I don’t have much time for computers these days. Sorry this is so short. You have a blessed 2018…I’ll check on you later:-) Siddy is adorable in front of the Tree!
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So sorry, I missed this post. I decided to stop by todayand boy have you been through a lot lately-UGH. Not only you , but your daughter, too..so sorry about your brother.
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Oh Pauline, I am so behind. and while I knew part of each of these stories, I was not aware of all of the details AND how each incident happened one after the other. I feel awful that I haven’t been more of a virtual support to you.
Obviously, I am going backwards in time and have already commented on a more recent post.
I cannot wait to give you a big hug … in less than 2 months!!
Love to you and to your girls and to Siddy and Orlando, too
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Pauline, I am so sorry. I’m just now reading as I was getting ready to leave town and just got back, so I’m behind a bit. Wow, the timing on both you and your daughter falling. I am glad that you didn’t have anything serious, and I’m wishing your daughter a speedy recovery. I’m so happy your other girl could come and help you guys out. Siddy might not be Lassie, but he sure is a pint size of devotion and love! I hope you both are doing better and looking forward to the new year. Much love to you, xoxo
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Happy Christmas Eve Dear Pauline. I’m very sorry to hear you’ve recently lost your brother ❤ Especially so suddenly. Does he have children too? It's really tragic when you don't have the opportunity to say good-bye. I lost a dear friend last month, I hadn't seen her in maybe 6 months and I only realized that when I found out she'd passed away. It left me feeling really sad that I'd never see her again. Were you close with your brother?
Things have been right up-in-the-air for you then. Danella and your brother and this fall ! I hope the holidays will bring some quietness to your life. I know how we both need calm. It's a miracle you didn't crack your noggin' open or worse! But I'm glad you maintain your awesome sense of humour if not your dignity. I could see Siddy bouncing around, not knowing mom was in a dire heep by the drama. In the end, the play time and his happy demeanor was probably the best Rx for the moment.
No drama here, seems pretty un-eventful really. We're finally getting a sprinkling of snow. Quite well timed actually. It's coming straight down, no wind…rather pretty way to whiten up Christmas. We're going into a Polar Vortex though…eeeek! If you never heard of it, you don't want to ask…it's banana's.
Do have a great lovely Day with your dear Danella! I've been told by FB, it's also a birthday Celebration! There's a bit of cheerful reprieve then! To you and those you love the most, Merry Christmas Pauline. I'll be thinking you with love! xo K
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Hello Kelly – the day is quietening down here – it’s been like a mad-house today! It’s hot and windy and it seems like everyone is on the road or in the shopping places. I had to go twice today to Danella’s place and really would much rather have stayed at home! I think the stores stay open til 10 pm or even later and people shop til they drop. It just doesn’t appeal! Our little part of the world will be a little cooler and cloudier tomorrow and quieter 🙂 So different from the thought of you carpeted in soft white snow, dressing up warm if you go out…..
We are all doing well here. Danella is making a good recovery – beginning to get impatient with being confined. But she’s resourceful and will find ways to get around that. I’ll tell you about the rest when we talk. Have a most lovely Christmas my dear and I hope you get beautifully spoilt! xoxo
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Mwwwwaaaa, until then, sending warm hugs! I do tend to get spoilt, and I have been very good 😀 So I think I have this thing locked down. Sleep tight, I think Santa must be flying by just about now xo k
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Pauline, I am so sorry for your loss. May you find the peace and comfort that you need during this time. It seems everyone is taking a tumble these days. My mom and dad, then I fell going up steps I’ve traversed for over 17 years. My right knee is not quite right, but I am loathe to sit in anymore hospital emergency rooms or doctor’s offices. I am very glad that you and your daughter are on the mend. Siddy sounds like he handled things well. What else could it possibly mean when the human is prone on the floor other than playtime?
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Maybe it’s the world atilt, not us, that is causing the tumbles SS – that would be a most convenient excuse for someone who finds staying upright a challenge 😀 My right knee is still not quite right too – isn’t that odd! But then, my last big accident it took my right hip and left knee three years to become pain free. But I didn’t have a homeopath then! You are correct about Siddy and play time. Poor boy did not understand why his mumma was not more amiable at the time. He’s had a lot of changed people and circumstances to deal with lately! Now I think about it he is coping very well! How are your folks doing, I hope you are not too stressed out and are looking after yourself. Sending hugs!
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Thanks for asking. My parents are quietly at home now. But I fully recognize that the quiet is as fragile as an egg shell. I’ve been searching for ways on how to live with this fact and not always be on edge. I flinch whenever the phone rings now. I don’t want to be in a state of constant anxiety so I need to find some philosophical way of getting through this. Yarn Rascal picks up on all my feelings and he too is on edge. I don’t want to do that to him. So it is important that I find a serene way through this.
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Oh dear, Pauline. What a month of calamities, and I’m so sorry to hear about your brother. My heart goes out to you and Colin. Having lost a younger brother as well, I know that it comes with many deep feelings and poignant memories. Sending hugs your way. And I’m glad you walked away from your fall without breaks though it seems Danella wasn’t that lucky, at all! I’m relieved to hear that she’s on the mend and Sid is keeping spirits bright. Have a lovely Christmas, my friend. ❤
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Hello Diana! I must tell you, I climb into bed every night and open my kindle and read a chapter or two of Catling’s Bane. It is my constant right now! I never thought I’d be a fantasy reader but my mind is changed. When my sister died many years ago we used to sit up til all hours of the night playing scrabble. It soothed my grief, distracted me and eventually allowed me to sleep peacefully. Now your story does that for me. Thank you!
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Oh, you brought tears to my eyes, Pauline. Such a sweet comment, and I’m so glad that you’re finding some comfort in reading. It’s a nice transition to sleep and an escape from the day’s pressures. Sending you light and love and hugs. ❤
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Oh my goodness, Pauline! So much… I don’t know where to start and maybe words are not sufficient anyhow. Offering you hugs and love and many good wishes. ❤
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Thank you Robin xo
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I cannot say too much about your brother, it is such a shock to read this, Pauline. Dear one, how you could just insert this into a post with accidental breaks and pains. . .
I feel so badly about your loss. . .
I believe you have overcome but I still cried at your loss. Too close for comfort is honestly how I felt reading this. Huge hugs for you and Colin. xo 💞 🕊 Peace be with you and your family.
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That was how it happened Robin – it felt like I was was just lurching from one event to the next with no time to really process anything. Perhaps as it happened here it need not happen over where you are. We all must face loss if we live, it is inevitable. My brother is at peace and I honour that and his memory. It is all I can do. My love to you and your dear brother.
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I am so upset still that you had such misfortune “rain down upon you,” my loving and caring friend, Pauline.
I hope things have been slowly becoming less serious with your daughter and you.
A brothers life is truly a gift to hold and have in memories. I do feel he was quite young and wish you had had more time. I appreciate all your kind, wonderful wishes sent to me, while you were indeed going through your own personal disasters.
Merry Christmas season and Hope this New Year brings you safe, healthy times. May these enrich your 2018, Pauline: tranquility, love and happy moments with your daughters! 🕊 🌟 💞 🎉
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Oh my goodness!
First of all, I am so glad nothing came of your head bump. Imagine my intense concern after dealing with now, three weeks of Randy’s healing head.
Then, so grateful nothing on you broke. I felt horrible when later, in your post, I find out your Danella’s leg broke more than once. How horrible and I am nearly crying, tears sprouting forth. . .
I was glad you somehow, through holistic approach, was able to forego medicine to remove an embolism. I worry about leg blood clots, too. Hugs and lots of extra smiles sent to brighten your days. Thank you for sweet, handsome Siddy smiling at us! xo 💐
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I was dealing with the effects of my fall and subsequent clot when Randy first became ill Robin and I felt quite connected to him and you as a result. My head bump resulted in a tender area and a slight bruise – the bruise on my leg was much worse when that eventually emerged. I got off lightly! Isn’t that a wonderful photo of Siddy. I didn’t take it. 🙂 He is such a great boy ❤ I do hope to hear Randy is healing well now the second operation is behind him. And that you are feeling hopeful and trusting that all shall be well. Be at peace dear Robin xoxo
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I am glad we exchanged Merry Christmas wishes here. I was so worried when I saw your secret Santa gift (cute gnomes!) and your sweet impromptu photos, since I felt I had missed or not completely told you how much your continued visits during Randy’s after effect posts. . .
All is much better on his part. Hope Danella’s feeling better and stronger, too. ❤ Your daughter, Joanna was such a positive part of both of your healing periods. 💞
Your Siddy and Orlando are on my happy list of animals who cheer me up. 😊 🌻
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Oh my goodness, girl! I don’t know where to begin. First, my condolences on the death of your brother. that’s a tough loss. I’m so sorry to read this. Sudden losses are rough. But how lovely that you and your other brother connected deeply during this time.
Second, the falls — yours and your daughters. My gosh. Having had a nasty fall recently, I empathize deeply with you both. And isn’t family amazing? There was your other daughter, coming to the rescue and helping at a time when it was badly needed.
My best wishes for an UNeventful Christmas, dear Pauline. To you and your family — may it be a joyful, peaceful time. And NO falling.
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🙂 Thank you Cynthia. I am making it my mission in life to stay upright – except when in bed of course! I feel as someone who seems to spend a fair amount of her time upside down I need to take hold of this issue. I shall write myself a note and pin it to the fridge ‘NO falling’ 🙂
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Did I mention how lovely the painting is? It looks complete.
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Oh, that’s lovely. Thank you Cynthia.
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That’s several years disasters all in one short patch. When they come one at a time, coping is possible, but all at once is very hard. I’m so glad your family got together and everyone helped. I’m so sorry to hear about your brother. We are reeling from a shock today (not family), so can sympathise with the unbelievability of the loss. May you have the most peaceful imaginable Christmas!
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I’m sorry for your loss Hilary. ‘Reeling’ is such an appropriate word isn’t it when death arrives without warning. It takes time to digest, to process, to accept. It just takes time. I am at peace with the process. Thank you for coming by despite your own loss, I wish you in return, the most peaceful of Christmases.
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Pauline, I’m so sorry to hear of all of the heartbreak and falls in your life right now. It sounds like you have a really good support system, and I am happy for that. Although, of course, that does not eradicate the grief and pain of losing a sibling, as I well know. But, family and friends are a healing salve at these times. And especially furry family. ❤️ You have been very missed. I was hoping you were busy walking With Siddy and painting. I’m sending a big hug and lots of healing wishes for you and your family. And lots of love. May 2018 be better for us all. xx
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Cheryl, wonderful words, thank you! Siddy and I have continued to walk, it was more of a hobble when the clot was developing and we didn’t go far, but still we got out every day. Now we go out at about 7 am and have our walk (me) and run (he) and then its off to my daughter and ensure she has her goody packed smoothie to start her day……… I have a feeling about 2018 – it will be a good year. It’s something in the number………
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Words fail me – almost. You can look back and see the funny side of two falls, some broken bones and almost-broken bones, but then you hit us with the devastating news of your brother’s death. “So sorry” doesn’t even come close, but I’ll say it anyway. It sounds like you are lucky to have a close knit family and particularly great daughters who pull together at the drop of a hat when needed. I can only offer virtual support and a hug – and wish you the best Christmas you can muster up in the circumstances. Xx
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Thank you Sheila, for your presence here and your supportive words. The rallying round has been superb and every day gets easier . It sure is an opportunity to realise how very blessed we are! And even grief has a place within that.
I have to admit was so pleased I managed to get my Secret Santa package sent off the day after D fell. It would have arrived early, but I would rather that than late!
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WOW … What a string of crazy events. Deepest thoughts to you and your family about your brother’s passing. Just like bruises, time is a wonderful healer, and my your memories bring you smiles.
Now – about that fall. Seems a bit scary – but hey – at least Siddy was there thinking you wanted to play! Nonetheless, very early while reading your tale, I had this flashback to days gone by. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iWtohHwNXoU
Best of holiday wishes to you and your family!
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Ha-ha Frank, that made me hoot with laughter 🙂 It’s perfect! Thank you ❤
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😀 … Glad the clip made you laugh!
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Oh my god, Pauline! What a horrible string of events–I am SO sorry about your brother. All the other stuff can be fixed but a loss like that–I can’t even imagine the heartbreak. You’ve come through all of the stressors with a huge amount of grace and even good humor–amazing. I’m glad you’ve healed (how weird that your bad fall was the *least* damaging event!) and that Danella is doing so well–your family sure knows how to support one another! I hope you’ve all gotten the bitter out of the way and can enjoy the sweet of the holidays and the new year!
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Hello Kerry and thank you for your cheering words. And yes, for all the drama I piled onto it in the moment, mine was indeed the easy route 🙂 We are planning a quiet Christmas, it was always going to be that way this year as we are gearing up for our ‘blogging babes’ reunion at the end of February. Stay tuned for that one ❤
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Wow what a run of unbelievable events! I’m relieved you didn’t break anything. What a shock though. And then everything else as well. So sorry for you losing your brother too. I think you must have used up all the bad luck and only good stuff is coming your way. Wishing you a lovely xmas and I hope you’re daughter is back on both feet soon.
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Oh Kym – thank you for your good wishes. The topplers were both really lucky not to have done worse damage to themselves so I just count my lucky stars! Christmas greetings to you too – I hope you have a fabulous one!
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Sometimes, the adversities of life can strike on from all sides. I glad to learn that you and your family have come together to lift each other up.
I wish you all joy ❤
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Thank you Rosaliene – ours are small, first-world troubles compared to the bigger picture and all this simply serves to remind us we have so much to be grateful for. Thank you for your wishes of joy, happily accepted and returned in bucket loads! xo
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I did forget to mention Pauline, that I hope you and your family have a wonderful Christmas. I do not seem to be able to stay active in my blog but will definitely check in with you from time to time. There are a few special friends I made in my years of blogging and you are certainly one that touched a special place in my heart.
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Oh Jan, thank you – I feel the same way. Blogging may stop but the connections remain for sure. Happy Christmas to you and Thommee xoxo
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Oh Pauline, you have had quite a time of it, haven’t you? I am so glad that you survived the fall but sorry to hear about your daughter’s broken leg. And then to have lost a brother on top of that, I’m just so sorry. Big squishy hugs to you.
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Hello Jan! Thank you, those hugs are much appreciated ❤
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Hugs to you Pauline. Your writing is so entertaining and light, even while you share sad and devastating news. I admire your attitude and your strong family ties. Take good care of yourself while it all settles in.
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Hello Jodi! I mostly keep myself highly amused with my ability to end upside down somewhere, no chance of me ever getting too pompous because I inevitably deliver the coup de grace and then trip over my own feet 🙂 Thank you for coming by and joining in so thoroughly and thank you for your good wishes too. I’ll see you again soon xo
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I hesitated to click “like” as you have had such a bad run of things lately Ms Pauline! Goodness me! I figured like was entirely possible as you have come out the other side with great grace and obviously with a new understanding of modern hospitals that I dare say will have you not wanting to attend them again in any great rush. I, too, fell over but in a not so private way. I got Steve to drop me off in a very public place that Earl hadn’t been to before as he was driving to pick up the dogs meat. I figured I could walk into the city and get some exercise and amuse Earl’s bouche at the same time. He was vibrantly amused. To the point of thrumming! I didn’t think to keep my eye on the pooch and was navigating crossing the road and didn’t realise that whilst I was still walking, Earl had decided to stop and sniff something. We got to the other side of the road (I have a long lead) and I hauled Earl who promptly careened in front of me and I was still walking…needless to say I have many bruises but none more bruised than my dignity as he chose to do it right when cars were driving by “OH the shame!” Luckily it was uphill and my crawling ability is now greatly enhanced… I am terribly sorry about your brother Pauline. Please accept my condolences. Hopefully that’s everything over now and 2018 can start with a lovely flourish of joy for you and yours.
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Oh a public humiliation – I feel for you! I once tripped over a very low step and ended up flat on my face as I was leaving a one day cricket match. I’m sure everyone who witnessed it thought I was drunk and I found out that day that our heads weigh quite a lot…… The things we endure when gravity fails us!! I hope your bruises are fading along with that dose of public shame! Thank you for your condolences – 2018 will be a lovely year I feel it in my bones 🙂
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So do I Ms Pauline. So do I 🙂 X
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They say these kinds of things come in threes. Well, you’ve had your three. That should be the end of it. Lassie never really saved anyone. He just went where his trainer pointed. Now if Siddy could learn to bring you the phone on command, he would be paws down, miles ahead of Lassie’s image. This reminds me how vulnerable we all are in the world. I’m so happy you three step up for each other when the chips are down. I’m happy to hear D is recovering well. Breaks like that are by no means easy on the body. Also glad you have a good homeopath to keep you from taking those nasty drugs. I loved that painting . Are you finished with it yet? I think the easel wants your attention. You write this so wonderfully that even though I knew most of the story, I was so caught up in it. Do all stay well and have a very Merry Christmas, a happy New Year and don’t give another thought to those cards. There is always next year. 🙂 Giant squishy hugs to the whole lot of you. Next year has to be better.
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Thank you Marlene – you have as always encapsulated everything succinctly and surely! That’s a thought isn’t it – to teach Siddy how to fetch the phone….. 🙂 I was thrilled with my homeopaths ability to restore my blood to full functioning so easily and quickly. The painting isn’t finished – I don’t know if it ever will be but I shall have a last go at it soon. If all else fails there is always a large pot of gesso and a brush to return the board to a blank beginning…….. 🙂 you are much in my thoughts. Be well xoxo
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Oh, Pauline, I hope you don’t gesso over the painting. I ab-soul-utely LOVE it. It has such an ethereal feel. As for encapsulating succinctly, it’s my curse. A writer who wants to use as few words as possible. I’m a “give me the facts” kind of person. You on the other, hand are the most talented person I know. I’m wishing the new year brings you time and inspiration for all the wonder you create. It’s been one hard year and I certainly hope a better one is ahead.
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That so makes me smile Marlene, you being ‘a writer who wants to use as few words as possible’ while I would never use two when ten are so much juicier 🙂
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I think I use more when I speak than when I write but tend to be the quiet one in the group until I get my teeth into something and am then more loquacious than most can tolerate. 🙂 I was told by a writing teacher that most people have a short attention span. I’m one of them; so I try to keep my post at close to 500 words so I don’t bore anyone to tears. 🙂
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You are a very thoughtful blogger 🙂
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Oh my goodness, what a terrible time of it you and your family have had these last weeks. It sounds like your clan is the rallying-round kind and that’s an immense help I’m sure. My thoughts are with you, Pauline. 2018 is on the horizon, pink and promising. All the best to you in the year ahead.
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Hello Susanne – thank you – I was wishing I had the ability to put the events into a few well chosen words and beautifully crafted lines of poetry – but alas you get the long winded version here! I can’t express how happy I have been at observing the rallying that has gone on here over the past month or so. Thanks for noting that! Onwards and upwards!! xo
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thanks for sharing the bittter-sweeeeetness of life
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Thank you for getting it! And for stopping by 🙂
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I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your brother, Pauline. He looked like such a kind and gentle man. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I’m happy to know your daughter is doing better…I’d seen a few of your posts on Facebook. Well, Siddy might not be like Lassie when it comes to rescuing, but he loves his mommy…that’s obvious. Take care of yourself Pauline…there are many obstacles around our home just waiting to take us down. I’ve had a few spills myself lately. You photos of Siddy are adorable!!!! Take care! Hugs! xo
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Oh Jill – not you too! I’m convinced I trip myself up when I start rushing about instead of allowing myself to be in what I am doing. Take care my friend, you must stay upright! Thank you for your observations and thoughts, I appreciate them very much xo
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My mother always told me, “You don’t pay attention.” 🙂 xo
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Mmmm – perhaps she was correct ❤ xo
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Pauline, what a series of disasters and unhappy events. Thankfully, it sounds as though everyone is on the mend, in no small part due to Siddy’s ministrations, of course. 🙂 And how positive and reassuring to have the Christmas tree in order for your daughter. I do wish you well for Christmas and beyond, and my sympathy to you on the sudden loss of your brother. Hugs to you all.
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Siddy is a major bringer of joy and therefore health isn’t he Gallivanta – he does his work every day and I watch with an undiminished sense of awe. I can’t help but think that everyone should have a dog!! And you are right about the Christmas tree – it sits in the corner of D’s living room, glowing quietly and adds such a delightful ambience of hope and joy. It was genius of her sister to insist on doing it! We can also sit in her living room and watch the activity on her three bird feeders. This morning her garden was abruptly visited by a curious magpie, a startlingly large intruder into the usual mix of sparrows, wax-eyes, starlings and wrens. It was wonderful! I hope you are enjoying your summer and preparing for a joyful Christmas gathering xoxo
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Enjoying summer (and interestingly saw the first magpie in our street in the 17 years we have been here!), and I am hoping for a very quiet Christmas. Peace and quiet will be great joys. 🙂
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Mmmm do you think the magpies are working up to something nefarious? It was also the first time we had seen one here.
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Sadly not. I think the problem here is that the place where I used to see them has been stripped of trees and is now a housing development. This one was probably scouting for food and water. And maybe shelter.
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Maybe the one we saw was on that same mission. When I was young the magpies lived in a stand of pine trees along a track we kids walked to and from school. We were terrified of them because in the nesting season they would dive bomb us….. I haven’t seen them here in my urban area before.
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Fortunately I haven’t been dive bombed by magpies but I do remember them in pine trees.
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Oh, Pauline. What a time you’ve had of it. There’s more than enough for anyone to bear. You are so strong. I admire your courage. As Geoff says, it doesn’t just rain, it’s a deluge. I so felt for you and your fall and could picture and feel every elongated second of it. It reminded me of my own fall in 2012, though I had help on hand and an ambulance trip to hospital. I’m so pleased that you have recovered. But then daughter’s fall on top of it, followed by the passing of loved ones. All I can do is send you enormous telepathic hugs. May next year start, and remain, brighter, filled with love, good health and happiness. You’ve endured your turn and more just now. Take care, my lovely friend. My thoughts are with you.
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Those falling events certainly went bang, bang, bang Norah – it was kind of surreal there for a while. But really we are looked after as it could have been so much worse and it wasn’t. Sometimes I just shake my head in wonder at how we both escaped a more dire outcome – we can only be grateful! Then it became a case of just moving with the events until I could feel some sort of normalcy returning to me……. It’s such a process isn’t it – and yet still, sitting here now with regained health and strength and feeling the loss and the changes I can do nothing else but remain grateful for all the help and love and support that pours in. Thank you ❤ xoxo
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Gratitude is a choice. I admire the choice you’ve made, Pauline – it’s admirable. Best wishes for Christmas and the New Year! Hugs. xx
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Hugs back Norah xoxo
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Wow, you have certainly had some challenges lately. First of all, I’m so sorry about your brother, my deepest sympathies to you. Second, I’m glad your daughter is doing better – how awful for her! But most of all, I’m glad you are okay. What a terrifying feeling to take a spill like that and know that you are alone – except for one playful dog. I hope all of you recover fully and are able to enjoy the holidays. It will be a little sadder this year, but it looks like you have a strong network. Happy Holidays to you and yours!
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Thank you Karen for this lovely comment and your good wishes. We surely are accepting them all with gratitude. Happy Holidays to you too, I guess you won’t be going hiking….?
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We hope to do a hike on New Year’s Day – the Virginia State Parks host a challenge, I signed up for it before I saw that it is going to be VERY cold! Happy New Year!
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Oh my, life really has been throwing it at you and your loved ones. I have missed you and imagined you were painting away in a creative haze – so sorry that was not the case. Sending love an hugs to you all through this huge time of healing. And please tell Siddy, I think he’s perfect just the way he is xx
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This is probably why the blasted easel tripped me up – so many folk seemed to think I might be painting and I wanted to be painting but every day was busy and I need a whole day to work my way back into the painting and and and……. I’ll soon be able to settle into it though. Dear old Sidd – he’s such a hoot! Don’t we just love our fellows to pieces, whether they are still here or not! You have such wonderful memories of your Hicks and how much you cared for him and these things are bitter-sweet especially at this time of the year. Big hug!!
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I was thinking the easel tripped you to remind you the pic needed finishing, but with all else that has been happening to you, if also felt as if it shouldn’t be near the top of the priorities.
It sounds as if Siddy and Hicks both had very similar approach to life 🙂 Thanks for the hugs, sending more straight back at ya! xx
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I did wonder where you were but I thought you were maybe just busy with Christmas. My lord, what a time you’ve had. All my love and my hopes that you are all feeling better soon xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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Thank you Shey. The worst is behind us now and all shall be well! I look forward to catching up with you on Twitter soon xoxo
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Oh my, what a time. Deepest sympathy on the sudden loss of your brother. You have done a great job on raising your girls who clearly have their priorities right and rally round. Adversity really can bring out the best in people. Siddy did his best to be lassie, a game would cheer him up so why not you? Or maybe not.
The very best of luck whilst you all recover and heal, and seasons greetings to you. xx
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Thank you Cathy. I’m sure I’ll be back to regular visiting now as we have a routine established and the extra help has kicked in and D is cheerfully mending so I can kick back a bit and get on with my life. I think you are right about Siddy’s offer of a game – it didn’t occur to me in the moment but we have discussed how we think he plays fetch with different people when he picks up they need some light entertainment. Maybe he is even better than Lassie 🙂
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It rains then it pours and then it deluges. Glad the sun is peeping through now. I admire your conviction to homeopathy. I’m wedded to chemistry and dont see that changjng
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It would be a sad world if we all had to like the same things wouldn’t it….. And I appreciate your genial acceptance of my oddities 🙂
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Oh, what a time you have had. Glad to hear that D. is on the mend – I really hope she heals quickly. Reading such sombre news I was delighted it included the antics of Siddy for light relief. I am still laughing at the thought of him falling off the windowsill and getting stuck – at least he didn’t break anything!
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And that was exactly my thought as I tried to unwedge him Jan – don’t break him, don’t break him! 😀 He went nice and limp and simply trusted that I could save him – it was both heart warming and hilarious at the same time.
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I can only reiterate what the other folk above have said. What an awful run of things you’ve had recently, I’m so sorry. Losing someone quickly is a terrible shock and with everything else that’s going on, it’s difficult to take in and process, I would imagine. Here’s hoping the new year brings strong healings for you all. Sincere seasonal greetings, Pauline xx
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Jenny, thank you so much! Added to the support I have around me on a daily basis I am also buoyed up by the understanding and kindness of the many wonderful people I refer to as my ‘blogging friends’. I feel myself to be so very fortunate! Warm hugs Jenny xoxo
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What a storm of many challenges. How wonderful to have such a family who support one another. You sound strong in the face of it all – black humour is a great asset at times like these isn’t it. It will take time for things to settle, so take good care of you.
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Thank you for this lovely comment! ‘It will take time for things to settle….’ resounds strongly for me, well said and heard – thank you again xo
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Oh Pauline, what a tale of woe. I’m so sorry to hear about your brother but glad to know you have so much family support. As for you and your daughter both falling, it’s so easily done. I’m very grateful you came through relatively unscathed and I hope your daughter continues to improve each day. Sending love to you and best wishes for a peaceful and restful Christmas. 💛
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Thank you Carol. You are right – it is so easily done and I do it a lot these days – I should be used to it! My poor girl who doesn’t do it very often came out far worse off than me. Maybe there is something to be said for toppling over regularly? 🙂 Thank you for those lovely wishes ❤
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Pauline, I’m so sorry for your loss and for the dreadful accident you suffered and the one your daughter suffered too. You’ve had everything thrown at you recently and yet you’ve cooped beautifully…..with Siddy’s help of course. Despite everything I hope you’ll be able to enjoy Christmas on some levels.
I wish you the rest of the year problem free and Massive Hugs.
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Thank you David and especially for your good wishes and hugs which are much appreciated. xoxo
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My. What a time you’ve had. I knew some of it, of course, but not your own fall. Thank goodness you weren’t seriously hurt. Through all this you have managed to write cheerfully and entertainingly. In particular you describe that time slowing down through the fall so well. I do hope you can all enjoy Christmas and that next year gets better. XX
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Thank you for this lovely comment Derrick – I firmly believe that we get the opportunity to learn from all our little disasters and to laugh at ourselves too and I keep myself endlessly entertained these days 🙂 I’m beginning to think I would call my biography ‘Falling Into Old Age’ should I ever be bothered to write it 🙂
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I am so sorry for your loss, Pauline. My two oldest brothers also died suddenly. I, therefore, have some insight into that particular type of bereavement. I wish you and your loved ones gentle days ahead.
As for your various calamities, you’ve really had a rough trot of it and I’m sorry all of that happened. I’m glad you were able to rally around each other as a family and assist each other in a time of need. I’m sure that same spirit is going to help you get through this bereavement process too.
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Laura, thank you for sharing your losses here too. It’s such a tough thing isn’t it – yet one we must all endure at some stage. My family is small, but the bonds are strong and I feel most fortunate in that. We just need to keep standing firmly upright 😀
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A lot of falling down and getting back up again, helped a lot by doggie kisses. Not an easy time for you and I read it all with lots of ‘oh nos, oh gosh’s, a bit of holding my breath and then heartfelt ouches and awwws’. I’m sorry to hear about your brother, and pleased you and your other brother have each other. Hugs and love to you and yours for this holiday season.
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A LOT of falling down! You are so right Nanette – thank you for your good wishes. I must find your blog again soon and visit!! I do hope all goes well for you xoxo
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My gosh, Pauline!!! What a few weeks you’ve had!! It sounds properly terrible. I fell a few months ago myself (with groceries) and those few moments you lie doing inventory give a certain relief Danella did not get. What a terrible fall. I’m glad you’re both better. And I’m sorry about your brother. What a shock amidst everything else. I send my sympathy and many virtual hugs.
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Thank you Lisa – it’s been an interesting time 🙂 I’m still processing of course and sitting with many different emotions. “All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of thing shall be well” as TS Eliot wrote, quoting Julian of Norwich.
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I hope so. What a pile-on. Like Alys said, there’s a point when you just focus on your next step. Now you’ve got all the processing…
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Pauline, as you know I’ve been following bits and pieces of your story, but to read it all at once is jarring. You’ve had such a difficult go of it. My heart goes out to you. When things happen all at once, it’s hard to process anything. I think we kick into survival mode, and address what must be addressed with everything else falling by the wayside. I’m sorry for your loss. I know it’s complex and and I really feel for you. As for Danella, I’m so glad she is on the mend, and that you, Jo and the university have all rallied around her. I hope that you are fully recovered from your own injuries. I can just imagine how frightening it must have been to be on the floor, alone and unable to move. As for Lassie, let’s remind ourselves that TV dogs don’t count. Your Sid is a champ.
Sending you love and light and a tender hug. xo
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I’ll gladly take that hug and light Alys, thank you xo It does all come at once doesn’t it – as we can now see the light at the end of the tunnel much of the story becomes fairly amusing – especially my latest topple from dignity 🙂 Probably the biggest shock for me has been the loss of Danella as my first major support – I’m so used to be able to utilise her problem solving abilities, her height when I can’t reach things, her position as chief shopping companion and purchasing advisor,….. All things I’ve had to just get on with by myself after I’ve finished dong what I can for her. It’s a reminder to me that nothing is permanent and all things change and how fortunate I am to have such a wonderful companionship with her – with both my daughters really. And it’s good for me to have to pull on my big girl trousers and get on by myself, maybe I was becoming too reliant! I’m just so happy she is healing well and coping well and being well cared for on so many fronts. Hopefully we will all get that catch up call soon. xoxo
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